Weddings- Merged

[pilar_breathless]

Wheeeeeeeee!!  I cant wait until April!!  My fiance and I are finally tying the knot.  He has some 3 weeks leave and we are gonna get hitched and then go to Cancun for a wonderful Honeymoon!

Fiance has been in the Military for most of his life, since he was 18 and he is THE most wonderful man!

Any others out there hitching up this spring?

 

[Cpl4Life]

Congratulations!  I won't be hitching up this year but I will be envious of the Cancun honeymoon, that sounds fantastic.  Hope your day is great and your trip wonderful.

 

[RHFC_piper]

Any others out there hitching up this spring?

My Finacee (PipersWife) and I are tying the knot April 24th, in St. Lucia.  We've been together as long as I've been in the military (8 years) and we figure it's about time we sorted this out.  So we booked an all-inclusive week at a Sandals resort in St. Lucia and told people when and where.  We didn't invite anyone directly, we just told them; if they wanted to show up, they're welcome, but we don't expect anyone to come. Thus, no pressure to invite people and/or plan a reception (the beauty of all inclusive resorts.)


Congtrats on the wedding, pilar... Have fun in Cancun.

 

[rcrgruntsgirl]

My husband and I got married at hte end of March, he wore his scarlets, very handsome and well worth the wait. Work up training for the tour took up most of the past year and after him being in the stan for 7 months it was absolutely perfect!

 

[ms]

My husband (paramedtech) and I married on Mar 24th of this year after 11 years together. Three weeks later, he was off to Edmonton to start working up for Afg 1-08. Honeymoon TBA.

 

[beach_bum]

And we are still waiting for pictures of The Cake.  ;D

 

[ms]

And we are still waiting for pictures of The Cake.   ;D

Ha... I have just figured out how to post on the forums. Getting a photo of "the Cake" loaded up here is still out of my league. 

Mind you it really was a good cake... I'll apologize now for any random pictures of drunk wedding guests 'n family that may show up as I try to post a decent photo of the cake. May even add photo of the groom in his kilt ... next to the cake 

 

[geo]

Married off a daughter last summer (Aug 30th)
marrying off a son this summer (Jun 30th)
One more son to go................ (+/- 10 yrs to wait )

 

[IN HOC SIGNO]

I'm performing one this summer....does that count?? 

 

[geo]

Heh... are you one of the key players?

 

[IN HOC SIGNO]

Heh... are you one of the key players?

Well they can't do the ceremony without me and two witnesses so I guess you could say "key".....they are the star attraction though of course.

 

[CdnArtyWife]

Well they can't do the ceremony without me and two witnesses so I guess you could say "key".....they are the star attraction though of course.

:rofl:

 

[niner domestic]

Congrats to everyone who tied the knot and best wishes for those who are about to tie the knot.  As a friendly reminder, now that the wedding and honeymoon are over, to sit down and fill out your wills, POAs and Substitute Decision Makers forms and documents.  Remember, marriage null and voids all previous wills (unless written with the marriage intent included in a clause).  Make sure you go over all your insurance documents and alter or reassign who is the beneficiary if you need to do so and make sure you complete all the necessary forms and documents with your OR. 

 

[juliet]

Hi everyone,

I've done a lot of searching on this board these past few days and it's been so helpful (and sometimes humourous) to learn about what my fiance is probably going through, what to expect on my end, and what I can do to support him.  One of the things that frustrated me was the "not knowing" - when he'd get time off, when he could call, if we could write letters etc., but this board made me realize that this life of "maybe" is normal. 

We had started planning a wedding for August 2009 before he left.  During this time he should be in Gagetown completing Phases 2,3,4 of training as an Engineering Officer from what I understand - my question is, is it likely that he will be able to get time off to come home to Toronto for his own wedding??  Does this "depend" on when courses end, or his performance, or on anything else, or is it possible to definitively book time off?  Does he have to wait until he gets to Gagetown to find out? 

We've pretty much booked a venue, and I don't want to have everything booked only to find out a week before the wedding that he won't be able to come home...  Does anyone have answers to questions in the previous paragraph, or has anyone been in a similar situation?

 

[aesop081]

but this board made me realize that this life of "maybe" is normal. 

It is not only normal, but you will learn to thrive in that kind of chaos.

Does he have to wait until he gets to Gagetown to find out? 

Most likely, yes.

We've pretty much booked a venue,

Be prepared to un-book it or change your dates. When i was planning on getting married, i got suddenly sent overseas for 45 days. We moved the wedding date accordingly. Then it changed to 6 or 7 months. Once i got to the country, nobody knew when we were going to go home. We changed the dates yet again. In hindsight, i should have seen that as a hint not to get married but thats a whole other story....lol

I wold definately wait until he gets to Gagetown and has more information before booking anything at all.

 

[Colin Parkinson]

One bit of advice: "The wedding is about you and him, everyone else is just along for the ride. Don't get bullied/guilted into something neither of you want to do and DON'T assume anything on his part, talk about it and find out what you both really want. Good luck

 

[juliet]

Wow, thanks CDN Aviator for your personal experience and to you and Colin for your advice.  We've been together for 7 years (as of yesterday) and have always planned to get married after we were done schooling and he got a job (I'm in grad school) - we just didn't anticipate that his job would be what it is now!  We are definitely doing things our way  

I guess we will just have to play things by ear until he gets to Gagetown.  Just two more questions, CDN Aviator, when you changed the dates, you did so not knowing if you'd get that date off, and were hoping for the best?  Or did they say you could get that date off but then changed the plans?  Is it easier to book definitive time off after all your training is complete and you get posted?

 

[aesop081]

  Just two more questions, CDN Aviator, when you changed the dates, you did so not knowing if you'd get that date off, and were hoping for the best? 

We just kept pushing it back to where i thought it would work out and, of course, it never really did. We made the final date change when it became clear i would be home before xmas.....we moved it to later in Jan. I never really knew until i actualy got home if i would have to push it again.

Is it easier to book definitive time off after all your training is complete and you get posted?

The courses he will go on will have definitive dates. He will find out alot more details on the when he gets to Gagetown. I used to teach at the engineer school and whn i was there, summer leave was a big thing. Everything shut down, courses and all. Same during the hollidays. He will have time off but until he gets to gagetown, exactly when will remain unclear.

 

[armyvern]

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I guess we will just have to play things by ear until he gets to Gagetown.  Just two more questions, CDN Aviator, when you changed the dates, you did so not knowing if you'd get that date off, and were hoping for the best?  Or did they say you could get that date off but then changed the plans?  Is it easier to book definitive time off after all your training is complete and you get posted?

It's better to "book dates for a wedding" after he has a "definitive, signed and authorized leave pass from his Unit". As that Unit will be in Gagetown, he needs to wait until he gets here to apply for leave. They'll be able to tell him when his courses are complete and when the "block leave" period is. When he gets that info, he should submit a leave pass for that time period, and, when he gets it back all signed off and authorized as "good to go", THEN you should book the venue for a time which is within those authorized dates.

THEN, should something happen with those dates (for any myriad of reasons such as CDN Aviator suggested is always possible with jobs like ours) --- at least he had a signed and authorized leave pass and will be eligible to apply to have costs associated with, and already spent, for your wedding reimbursed to him due to his leaves's cancellation.

Keep ALL of your receipts - don't expend any funds on anything until he's got that signed leave pass.

There's always Option Two which works well for course candidates who are ALWAYS unsure of their timetables/tasks (teaches them tolerance, I suppose): Hit the JP on a weekend. Cheaper too.  8)

 

[juliet]

You guys are awesome, thanks for all the info.  We just might hit the JP sometime before then, but eventually we'd like to throw a partay