I am in total agreement with you about the cruelty. We have been seperated for almost six months now and still have possibel another 8 months to go. I say possibly becuase they are still possibly going to entertain the idea of moving us to Kingston but I am not holding my breathe on it anymore. We were supposed to have an answer three weeks ago and they still haven't decided ya or nay to the idea yet. URGH!!!
If we dont move I have to try to find another job here by the end of October and I don't know if I should proceed with that or not. As well I had been running around with my head schopped off a few weeks ago trying to get the house ready just in case we were moving.
It is hard on relationships, it is hard on the kids and it is hard on the member to be removed from absolutely everything that they have and know (family, friends personal effects). Alot can happen in 18 months and unless you have a strong relationship, thankfully we do, than it can be the end of the relationship.
To make matters even possibly worse for us. We will be seperated for about 1 - 16 months and than after being together for 2 months he has laredy been told that he will probably be going on a six months tour. So over the course of 2 years we would see him for 2 months straight, one two week vacation and two one week vacation. It hardly seems fair or right.
As far as the comment about being informed, we werent. Never once were we told that we would be apart this long becuase if we had been informed we probably wouldnt have done it.