Suicide bombers cowards? Not necessarily.
A man who is willing to die for his beliefs, like any of our soldiers, who bravely puts himself in harms way to "destroy destruction", i.e., destroy an invading army or force that is attempting to destroy him, or his family, or his beliefs is a brave man. Some things are worth dying for. Only a man who values life can be called brave for choosing to give it up for his beliefs.
Now, a man who claims to believe in a non-violent religion of respect for life, whose very own prophet says that "the real Jihad is inside, not outside" (I‘d quote it exactly if I could remember the passage), then who goes out of his way to blow up women and children, or fly planes into a civilian population (net effect on the "war": zero) is a hypocrite, a coward, and deserves that people spit at his memory.
It is easy to die for a cause. It is far harder to live for one. Most of these suicide bombers have chosen their particular path because:
1. They have no respect for human life
2. They have no power to enforce their belief system, i.e., they are such a minority that they couldn‘t raise a militia of like-minded individuals to *fight* a war. They‘re unconvincing.
3. They are so grossly uneducated and unprepared for ideological battles that suicide sounds like a good idea: Take it from the viewpoint of the average starving Afghani...life sucks, women are so tightly controlled you can‘t get laid, you have problems and nobody seems to respect your belief system. Now, the rich guy over there seems to have it together, promises to look after your family after you die, KNOWS that you‘ll go straight to heaven and be awash in women who will serve your every need, and life won‘t be bad any more. If you can‘t work all that out in your head, it is possible that with care and patience, someone can turn you into a suicide bomber.
#1 comes from living in a harsh environment, to a certain extent. Death happens, so it is easy to become inured to it.
#2 comes from the fact that most people don‘t willingly go out of their way to accept a belief system based on death, and by this I mean the belief system of Osama & company, which is incompatible with Islam.
#3 Has a lot of causes, primarily philosophical.
Maybe the suicide bomber believed he was dying for a good cause. Those who sent him were using him as cheap cannon fodder, asking him to make the ultimate sacrifice as an annoyance to the foreign forces in Afghanistan. From a tactical point of view, his death was just as meaningless as that suffered on our side. He‘s probably just some dumb farmer hopped up on cheap opium, Salvation and greenbacks for the family. To the extent that that is true, then he is not a coward, but a misguided fool. If he fully believed in the cause, understood all the implications, and chose to follow this course of action, then he was just as cowardly as his terrorist masters and deserves (as do Osama and others of his ilk) to be spat upon and interred with warm pig guts.
What makes *our soldiers* brave is that they understand the sacrifice they are making, but choose to make it anyway. This is what a REAL martyr is...someone who chooses to put themselves in danger, knowing what that entails, because there are higher-order considerations which are so essential to their life that they outweigh that life itself. They choose this life to destroy the forces of destruction, not to beat, torture and kill women and children...in fact, our warfare tends towards the "civilized" in that way because in spite of the collateral damage, we do not make war on non-combatants.
Our soldiers are worthy of respect for they have chosen the life they have to protect the kind of life they have. And they understand the consequences of their actions and inactions. Suicide bombers are not worthy of respect because instead of looking at death as an unfortunate necessity, they look on death as a means to an end. It is the extent of their understanding which determines how cowardly their resultant actions are.
Osama and his like are cowards on such a scale it defies imagination. Some of his followers are brave, but misguided fools. Which is why a lot of his followers end up dead.